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NSMH Candid Conversations - Black Lives in Hospitality - Shared screen with speaker view
Kayla Taliaferro
24:21
Yeah can’t recognize them
Kayla Taliaferro
26:32
Heck ya
Leanna Mae Dumenden
29:57
SOME OF THESE ANSWERS
Alana Dillette
31:40
And you will have a chance to hear, we want to hear from you!
Justin Tyler Flores
31:49
heck yeahhh
Alana Dillette
32:56
I'm really trying to catch up here.
Leanna Mae Dumenden
33:17
you're all valid!!
Maria Crilly
33:32
jason :)
Jason Lum
33:45
mia :)
Sean Gaian
34:51
my buddy RSVP’d and got kicked out
Kayla Taliaferro
35:11
private message me his name!
Jason Lum
35:51
im trying so hard
Alana Dillette
36:51
It's good to be aware though, that's why we are here!
Justin Tyler Flores
38:35
woooo
Molly Lancaster
38:45
Yaaaaa boi!
Benny Hayes
52:38
No
Alana Dillette
57:44
These are experiences from our own students. Not made up.
Alana Dillette
57:51
Thank you all for sharing these with us.
Kayla Taliaferro
59:08
^
Alana Dillette
01:08:39
We also learned that “White males are hired based on potential, Black males are hired based on demonstrated accomplishments.” This means that a degree and two internships for a white male, would not get you as far if you were a Black male. You’d have to have two degrees and three internships just to compete. Why do we think that is? (internalized and systematic racism meaning that the bias has gone on for so long that it is integrated in the systems we know of today, without people even being aware of it.)
Alana Dillette
01:09:55
What are ways we can close this gap?
Alana Dillette
01:10:47
EEOC...
Alana Dillette
01:11:58
How would you feel in this type of work environment in the future?
Kayla Taliaferro
01:12:31
Thanks for sharing!
Alana Dillette
01:15:21
Question: What privileges, other than race, can you think of that help people to “get in the door”?
Alana Dillette
01:15:35
Feel free to use chat
Jason Lum
01:16:50
Gender expression and gender identity
Brianna Boling
01:17:22
^^ definitely
Jordan McCray
01:18:04
Nepotism
Leanna Mae Dumenden
01:18:18
To build on what Michelle said, full transparency, I definitely grew out my hair this year to help with my "universally accepted" appeal and be straight passing.
Alana Dillette
01:18:28
Code-switching is the term for what you are both sharing
Brylynn Smith +Charlotte Randle
01:18:32
Thank you to everyone who shared! Very interesting
Summer McElman
01:18:42
that’s a new term! thank you!
Summer McElman
01:18:50
something to research!
Brylynn Smith +Charlotte Randle
01:19:34
Definitely colorism!
Kayla Taliaferro
01:19:38
great point Briana!
Alana Dillette
01:19:40
Most definitely Briana.
Kayla Taliaferro
01:20:08
Nepotism was a good one too!^
Summer McElman
01:20:11
you feel like you dont have an identity!
Summer McElman
01:20:18
same
Alana Dillette
01:20:26
It is rooted in slavery - lighter = "more White", or potentially 'White passing'.
Briana Cruz
01:20:53
good point Dr.D
Alana Dillette
01:21:44
There is a great documentary about this called "Dark girls". May be on Netflix.
Alana Dillette
01:21:51
Great point Madison!
Alana Dillette
01:22:41
So, in summary I heard: Gender, Race, Wealth, Colorism, Religion, Sexual Orientation, Ability, Language, Ethnicity
Alana Dillette
01:22:47
Yes, great discussion all!!
Brianna Boling
01:22:57
Thank you everybody!!
Maria Crilly
01:22:58
Dark Girls is on Amazon Prime!
Kayla Taliaferro
01:25:17
period
Brianna Boling
01:25:53
Don’t Touch My Hair - Solange
Alana Dillette
01:25:57
Many times it is unintentional, but this does not mean not hurtful.
Kayla Taliaferro
01:26:44
Thanks for sharing Alondra!
Summer McElman
01:26:45
I’ll be honest I didn’t grow up with a lot of black people so when I was around them I did ask if I could touch their hair because it was unique and thought it was pretty. But growing up and no one telling you any different you don’t learn what is appropriate and not
Brianna Boling
01:28:09
I used to let people touch my hair because I thought it was normal. It’s hard when you don’t know what’s appropriate growing up.
Alana Dillette
01:28:45
My Grandmother always used to say "when you know better, you do better". And that's why we're all here talking!
Mandy Ngo
01:29:06
^ i love that. thank you for sharing Dr. D.!
Brianna Boling
01:30:54
Reflecting on your past experiences can help you identify micro aggression you might have experienced that you didn’t realize at the time or recognize privileges you have.
Timia Drew
01:31:24
^^^^
Summer McElman
01:31:34
<3
Jason Lum
01:34:12
You all did SUCH an amazing job!
Mandy Ngo
01:34:33
Thank you!!
Carly Lawn
01:34:36
Such a great meeting! Very well done!!!!
Nayeli Plascencia
01:34:40
Y’all are awesome!!
Madison Durham (She/Hers/Her)
01:34:41
thank you guys, you guys did great!!
Maria Crilly
01:34:42
Agreed! I learned so much, what a great event
Emma Curtis
01:34:43
thank you so much everyone!! you all did an amazing job :))
Lily Wendel
01:34:43
Thank you so much! I learned so much and I can’t wait to continue learning this week and beyond!!
MESA - Christopher Albrecht
01:34:46
Thank you guys!
jaymifleming
01:34:55
Thank you so much!
Annabelle Crosbie
01:34:59
Thank you so much!
Jordan McCray
01:35:00
Thank you so much! This was an awesome conversation
Julieanne Poblete
01:35:02
Thank you! :)
Jenna Evaristo
01:35:03
thank you!
Megan Smith
01:35:03
Thank you all!
Michelle Garetti
01:35:03
If someone were to compliment your hair (if they say they think it's beautiful or something), would that bother you at all?
Karley Baranov
01:35:04
So informative and well put together!! Thank you!!
Timia Drew
01:35:04
Thank you all for coming we appreciate y'all
Rachel Johnson
01:35:04
Thank you!!
Jennifer Westling
01:35:04
Thank you!
Mackenzie Ramos
01:35:05
amazing meeting! Thank you guys so much for creating this space to share!!
Rebecca Gonzalez
01:35:06
Thank you!
Lexi’s iPhone
01:35:12
Thank you NSMH for hosting! and everyone for sharing!
Isabel Lewis
01:35:13
Thank you guys!!! You all did so good :)
Elena Mineo
01:35:13
Thank you NSMH and Dr. D!
Heaven Heatherly
01:35:15
Thank You
Benny Hayes
01:35:21
WOOHOOO THANK YOU! GREAT JOBN NSMH
Benny Hayes
01:35:28
GREAT JOB BRYLYNN!!!
Catherine (KK) Schmidt
01:35:29
Thank you!!!
Christopher Kanuha
01:35:31
Thank you all! This was awesome!
Karen Ito
01:35:34
thank you so much! This was an amazing experience to learn :)
Brylynn Smith +Charlotte Randle
01:36:03
Complimenting hair wouldn’t be offensive :)
Leah Daniel
01:36:38
thank you! great job yall!
Brylynn Smith +Charlotte Randle
01:37:07
anyone want to say something they’ve learned?
Jason Lum
01:37:35
Cultural appreciation vs cultural appropriation
Timia Drew
01:37:45
yes ^^^
Joshua Tenen
01:37:58
Amazing job NSMH and the all of the presenters! You all did a fantastic job :) Thank you for the wonderful presentation!
Christopher Kanuha
01:38:09
Also, please don't just touch someone's hair.
Alana Dillette
01:39:10
I didn't know that Bry.
Alana Dillette
01:39:18
I am learning lots too.
Kayla Taliaferro
01:40:20
Hi katherin!
Jason Lum
01:40:25
NSMH is the place to be
MESA - Christopher Albrecht
01:40:30
WELCOME!
Leanna Mae Dumenden
01:41:22
I'm glad we're going to tackle the whole A-day/B-day dress (in regard to gender-norms and expression) and redefining it. Self-expression is bizarre when we're trying to fit into this corporate box as to what's professional and not but (^: down with the hard lines
Kayla Taliaferro
01:41:27
good point!
Maria Crilly
01:41:32
I have to head out but really amazing job, thank you for teaching us so much!
Alana Dillette
01:41:33
If you haven't "The Social Network" is a MUST watch - it discusses exactly what Nikki is talking about.
Carl Winston
01:41:49
Leanna Mae, intesting poing
Carl Winston
01:41:52
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Briana Cruz
01:42:25
I have to leave now, but this has been an amazing discussion! thank you all so much!!
Alana Dillette
01:42:47
Actually, it's called "The Social Dilemma"
Brianna Boling
01:43:00
Bye Briana!! Thank you for sharing
Alana Dillette
01:44:43
I think it also depends on which company you want to work for...
Alana Dillette
01:45:26
Each will have different expectations, you have to find your "FIT"
Jason Lum
01:46:27
dr d exposing us
Jason Lum
01:47:14
Surrounding yourselves with people who you can have genuine discussions about these topics without criticism is SO important!!
Brylynn Smith +Charlotte Randle
01:47:15
It’s nice to acknowledge and recognize it, in order to understand it better.
Lexi’s iPhone
01:47:42
Thank you for creating such a safe, welcoming, and open space!!
Alana Dillette
01:48:11
Thank you! You were all a part of creating it as well, virtual hugs all around!
Brianna Boling
01:48:28
Thanks for the free therapy guys :)
Brylynn Smith +Charlotte Randle
01:48:34
Thank you for being open Lexi!!
Leanna Mae Dumenden
01:49:01
Good points good points. Ease of access in fitting the norm versus the freedom of individualism hmm, but I am hopeful to find my fit with a company that's open <3
Leanna Mae Dumenden
01:49:09
big heart eyes for all of you
Elena Mineo
01:49:13
I have to go but thank you all for such a great event!
Isabel Lewis
01:49:25
I hope you guys have a good day thank you for the great event!!
Brianna Boling
01:49:34
Thank you Elena and Isabel!!
MESA - Christopher Albrecht
01:49:50
Thank you guys for putting on this great event - have to go do some hw, have a great rest of your day!
Kayla Taliaferro
01:49:57
thanks chris!
Brianna Boling
01:50:06
Me too Leanna, honestly I might be too picky in who I want to work for lol
Karen Ito
01:53:16
Thank you!
Cristina Umana
01:53:34
thank you! <3